“Dr. Vibe Show Takes” contains various types of content such as our “takes” on different subjects and events, what we are up to and useful pieces of information. Enjoy!!
“Dr. Vibe Show Takes” contains various types of content such as our “takes” on different subjects and events, what we are up to and useful pieces of information. Enjoy!!
Check out Mike Ramey’s latest commentary, “”Bullying And The Truth – Part One”:
A few years back, one of the best ways to liven up a divorce custody case would be for one parent to ‘declare’ that the other parent had ‘done’ something to the children. The one who had dropped the nuke–in many cases–were not going to get custody in the first place. The rationale–kick over the card table so that one could/would get their way by judicial decree. Never mind who got hurt, or whether or not the other parent would have been the better parent. The ‘nuking’ party wanted their way…and pretty much got it, via legal ‘bullying’. Thanks to no-fault divorce and joint custody agreements, this weapon has been pretty much neutralized, but not totally erased from society.
BULLIES – A SURVEY AND A DEFINITION:
To me, a bully is one who tries to get their way ‘over’ another person by any means in their ‘kit bag’. They can use threats. They can use manipulation. They can use force. A true bully is easy to spot and is usually a person who is trying to get their way over another person. Institutions can ‘bully’ their participants. Bosses can ‘bully’ their employees. Co-workers can ‘bully’ each other–or entire workplaces. Spouses can ‘bully’ spouses. Single folks can ‘bully’ those with whom they’d like to date or marry. Countries or nations can bully ‘weaker’ nations.
Let’s not be fooled. TRUE bullying is about power and control. The cocktail of selfishness. In our ‘app’ era though, bullying is rapidly being used to form a ‘cottage industry’ and take dollars from taxpayers while increasing political/social/sexual preference power for the socially selfish. This is just another ‘issue’ that is being manipulated to further ‘silence’ possible public dissent against those who want to ‘flaunt’ their rebellion against social norms. Of couse, the social ‘victims’ tend to forget one thing…they often demand that the very people who have the guts to stand up to their foolishness ‘must’ clean up their self-destructive behavior–after running its course.
A BULLY…FOR HAVING AN OPINION?
By now, many have heard of the incident out of Wisconsin where a female TV news anchor was called obese by a viewer. Furthermore, the complainer made his views known on a FB page that belonged to the woman’s husband–who also is an anchor at the same TV station. After seeing the publicity photos of the woman in question, I’d have to side with the complainer. The truth is the truth…and it was amazing how many people came to the defense of the female anchor. Sadly, the supporters of the woman called the complainer ‘a bully’ for exercising his right to his opinion.
Let’s consider a little reality here.
What if the TV station’s consultant decided that the female anchor HAD to lose a few pounds ‘for the good of the station ratings’? Would the consultant be called ‘a bully’? Would the station be accused of ‘bullying’ for wanting slimmer, trimmer TV personalities representing their ‘brand’?
I think not.
In the media profession, those who appear on the air or in print have to develop a ‘thick’ skin. They were hired for their looks and/or for their talent, skills and abilities. I’ve heard of, and seen TV and Radio personalities fired for a variety of reasons. These were ‘business’ decisions. Not the best ones, and oftentimes not in the best interest of the media personality. Nevertheless, they were ‘business’ decisions.
It may ‘shock’ many of you to know that there are those who have ‘stalked’ me and sent me ‘nasty grams’ for the columns I have written. It’s part of the territory. You can’t write about a topic without bumping into a few trolls. Former Fox TV Network commentator Brit Hume once said, and I’ll paraphrase: “Jesus Christ are the two most dangerous words that can be uttered in American society today.”
Could I contact federal authorities about my on-line trolls, stalkers and haters? I would be within my rights to do so…but it would defeat the satisfaction of exposing the foolishness I receive. Would I call my critics ‘bullies’? That would be rather childish. I knew the risks. I knew the job was dangerous when I took it! I may disagree with them, but they aren’t going to stop me from saying what I’ve got to say. As we used to say, back in the day: “One monkey don’t stop no show!” I know the Constitution, rely on Jesus Christ, and keep on stepping–and writing. Everyone has an opinion, whether they have the courage to state it to your face, or talk about you to other writers or individuals. Stating an opinion does NOT make on a bully.
A BULLY…FOR BLUNTLY DEALING WITH A FREAK?
One of the things that I have noticed in our ‘app, post and text’ age is that there are more and more people who ‘revel’ in being jerks and fools. There used to be a way you could tactfully state your beliefs. However, with more and more people deciding that they have to be ‘mega viral’ in order to hype their individual relevance, the usual common sense safeguards have been cast away. We have a class of people who ‘get off’ on talking about their sexual orientation as if it is a civil right, when many know it is a moral wrong. This IS America. You have a right to be a freak! Just don’t bring it up to my face and expect me NOT to react to it! Further: Don’t hold a press conference, or prance around the Internet calling folks ‘bullies’ because they don’t appreciate your invading their personal space, or attempting to negate their gift of common sense by throwing your trash onto their front lawns.
THREE GOOD THINGS BULLIES DO:
Aside from all of the ‘hand wringing’ about bullying, they do have some benefits.
The first one: A bully will force you to stand on your OWN two feet and deal with what could be a major, real problem. Sure, you may call someone ‘a bully’ for telling you that what you are doing is self destructive and in bad taste. Keep in mind that someone is brave enough to tell you a truth that many of your so-called ‘friends’ have been hiding from you–for months or years. The second blessing is that a bully will force you to focus on reality. A bully doesn’t ‘allow’ you to exist in a dream world. You have to focus on reality. When David was taunted by Goliath, David had to focus on Goliath in reality…not fantasy. Real rocks cannot hurt imaginary beings. Rocks of truth can bring down real giants–and real bullies. Thirdly: A bully will force one to protect that which is precious to them. People who ‘step in’ and cut off gossip and/or slander from folks who are not able to defend themselves have great courage within them. Without a bully to taunt them, some people would not find their ‘inner strength’…nor would they need for God to get involved in their lives to help them develop a ‘backbone’.
A federal grant, a seminar, or congressional hearings WILL NOT stop a bully. To STOP a bully requires the person being bullied to RESIST! More to come–in Part Two!
The next edition of Dr. Vibe’s Allies is live tonight at 9 p.m. Eastern/6 p.m. Pacific. Our topic tonight is: How do Black Men really feel about today’s Black Church?
Some of the questions we hope to address during our show are:
What is the history of the Black church in America?
How has the Black church benefited the Black community?
In what ways has the Black church hurt the Black community?
Why do some people think there are similarities between Pimps and Preachers?
Do Black men view going to church differently than Black women?
Has emotionalism become more important than spirituality in Black churches?
What can be done to enhance the positive influence of the Black church in our communities?
Our guests for the show are:
Mike RameyThe Victory Unlimited ShowHenri Morris“The Board Of Directors” – Jabari Price, Michael Holoman, and Gerard Droze
During our live interview, you have the opportunity to call in and share with us and ask questions via Skype. If you would like to do this, please call us at: doctorvibe42. If you get through, please be patient and we will get to your call as soon as possible.
All you need to do listen to the show live is to go The Dr. Vibe and Show Homepage at http://thedrvibeshow.com/ tonight at 9 p.m. Eastern/6 p.m. Pacific. You can also provide your comments and questions during the event via Twitter (@drvibeshow#DrVibe) and at our Facebook Fan Page at “The Dr. Vibe Show” Facebook Fan Page
Marlye Monfiston was born in Haiti and raised partly in Montreal and partly in Port-au-Prince. For a number of years, she has worked in Intellectual Property as a trade-mark agent and lawyer. In quest of new challenges, she is now exploring creative and business avenues. She also recently started teaching part time at a French college downtown Toronto. Her numerous interests include traveling, reading, Latin dancing, and photography.
Marlye first became a member of the Toastmasters International family in Ottawa where she belonged to a bilingual club. She joined Ebony Toastmasters in 2006 and currently serves as the club’s president.
Janali Davis is the treasurer for “Ebony Toastmasters”.
Live tonight at 9 p.m. eastern, Janali and Marlye will be discussing about the topic, “The Benefits Of Becoming A Better Speaker”.
During our live interview, you have the opportunity to call in and share with us and ask questions via Skype. If you would like to do this, please call us at: doctorvibe42. If you get through, please be patient and we will get to your call as soon as possible.
All you need to do listen to the show live is to go The Dr. Vibe and Show Homepage at http://thedrvibeshow.com/ tonight at 9 p.m. EST/6 p.m. PST. You can also provide your comments and questions during the event via Twitter (@drvibeshow#DrVibe) and at our Facebook Fan Page at “The Dr. Vibe Show” Facebook Fan Page
Russell Simmons co-founder of the pioneering hip-hop label Def Jam and creator of different clothing fashion lines including Phat Farm is concerned about the future of Black America. Click on the link below to read more.
Evita Robinson – Host/Creator of Nomad•ness TV and the Nomad•ness Travel Tribe NOMADNESS TV
One of the longtime friends of our show is Evita (Evie) Robinson, Host/Creator of Nomad•ness TV and the Nomad•ness Travel Tribe. Here is what her Nomad*ness Travel Tribe is up to …
In less than one year, Nomadness LLC has launched one of the most innovative travel groups, taking Facebook by storm. Boasting over 3,500 members from over two-dozen countries, the invitation-only Nomadness Travel Tribe is the new home for urban nomads, shattering the myth that people of color don’t travel.
Nomadness LLC, launched in April 2012, has positioned itself as the new cool kid in travel business. Specifically, its social media arm, the Nomadness Travel Tribe, has pushed itself into the forefront to create a voice for an underrepresented demographic of world nomads. With stats that include seventy percent female, and ninety percent Black and Latino travelers, the Tribe has become an international family for those that prefer an urban stylistic of international vagabonding.
On the day to day, the Tribe functions as an online resource in which members have real time conversations about advice, anecdotes, photography, video, and the do’s and don’ts of hopping around the globe. It’s not unusual for a member who is stranded in a country to post a thread asking for help searching for lodging/transportation and being bombarded with options within minutes, from members all over the world.
In an effort to take the conversation offline, Tribe members are known for their weekly international Meet Ups, as well as the NomadnessX trips that the business core, High Council Members, organize on behalf of the group. Within the first year of conception, there have been five group trips (Panama, Spain,
Germany, Toronto, Dominican Republic). The first of which had eighteen members in Bocas Del Toro, Panama and was recounted in the July 2012 Issue of Ebony Magazine (click on the following link to read the article: http://nomadnesstv.com/press/).
“Being a young, Black female who traveled to over ten countries, and lived on three continents by the time I was twenty-five, I never found a travel group that spoke to me. They were boring and didn’t relate to my style or background. The entrepreneur in me said ‘Good, I’m going to create it,’ says Nomadness LLC Founder and Nomadness Travel Tribe creator, Evita Turquoise Robinson. In 2011, Robinson was noted by Clutch Magazine, as one of the ‘Top 11 Black Women Inspiring Us to Travel’ (click on the following link to read the article: http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2011/09/11-black-women-inspiring-us-to-travel/). It was her wanderlust, and young energy that became the catalyst to launch into the travel industry, fully occupying this sector unlike anyone before her had done.
The Nomadness Travel Tribe’s 1 Year Anniversary was this past September 30th, and over one hundred fifty members traveled to New York City, from all over the world to meet face to face, at the Miss Jessie’s™ Hair Care and Hotel BPM™ sponsored event. In addition, Robinson launched the Nomadness College Tour Series, with a focus on presenting to HBCU’s and diversity based clubs on college campuses, to spread the idea of travel after college.
